14 Patterns Of Relationship Psychology That May Make Or Break Your Relationship With Your Partner

(Last Updated On: April 8, 2017)

Relationship Psychology

Relationship psychology is a derivative of the personal psychologies of two or more people in relationship which later creates either relationship compatibility or else relationship problems. Psychologically speaking, there are as many types of people as is the total number of them on the planet. Still there certainly are some similarities that some people share and then feel like coming closer to form a relationship.

The aspects of our personalities facilitating building a relationship are based on our following psychological characteristics:

Let us investigate into each one of these, with a condition for the sake of simplicity that we are investigating into one on one relationship alone in which only two partners are involved with each other in an emotional relationship. I will do this here by asking you questions in each category and you need to answer them for yourself. The right answers making a relationship and the wrong ones breaking it should be self-evident to you! If in doubt you can always write back to me.

Relationship Psychology of Interaction:

  • What are the activities in which you interact with each other on a regular basis and how many are those?
  • How deep are the levels of your interactions in them?
  • Are you creative in your interactions or do you just repeat them mechanically every time you interact?
  • Do you keep looking for new activities in which to interact together with each other?
  • Do you support or else compete with each other in your interactions?
  • Do you enjoy your interactions and are passionate about them?
  • Are you proud enough of your interactions to exhibit them in public?
  • Do you ever criticize any action of your partner while interacting together?
  • If the result comes out to be above expectation, do you tend to take the major credit?
  • If the result comes out to be below expectation, do you tend to blame your partner?

Relationship Psychology of Worldviews:

  • Do your ideas about what life should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what family should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what marriage should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what parenting should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what education should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what entertainment should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what career should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what religious beliefs should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what politics should be like match with those of your partner?
  • Do your ideas about what the world should be like match with those of your partner?

Relationship Psychology of Likes and Dislikes:

  • Are your likes and dislikes very different from those of your partner? If yes, it’s a minus point.
  • Are your likes and dislikes quite similar to those of your partner? If yes, it’s a plus point.
  • Are your likes and dislikes somewhere in the middle of the above two extremes? If yes, it doesn’t matter much.

Relationship Psychology of Aspirations:

  • Is what you aspire for in life very different from what your partners aspires for in life? If yes, it’s a minus point.
  • Is what you aspire for in life very similar to what your partners aspires for in life? If yes, it’s a plus point.
  • Are your aspiration similarities and/or differences somewhere in the middle of the above two extremes? If yes, it doesn’t matter much.

Relationship Psychology of Expectations (Very Important Aspect):

  • Does what you expect from your relationship encroach the privacy and individuality of your partner?
  • Do you possess your partner psychologically?
  • Do you want to be possessed by your partner psychologically?
  • Do your expectations from the relationship ever become moral bindings for your partner?
  • Do you give a lot of importance to the protocols of relationship?
  • Does either of the two tend to dominate the other in relationship?
  • Can you psychologically be in the relationship without a single expectation from your partner?

Relationship Psychology of Habits:

  • Do you realize that your habits may disturb your partner aesthetically if s/he is not accustomed to live with those around?
  • Do you take care to do away with your unaesthetic disturbing habits without your partner pointing to those?
  • Do you straightaway point out to your partner’s habits that you find disturbing for your aesthetic conditioning?
  • Do you ever sit and talk about this issue patiently in case the said habits have kept disturbing either of you or else both for long?

Relationship Psychology of Value Systems:

  • Do you have a set of strict values which you give more importance than life in relationship as it unfolds itself spontaneously?
  • Are you a perfectionist?
  • Are you too moralistic to let go the less moralistic acts of your partner in relationship?
  • Do you have a strict definition of what good deeds and bad deeds are?
  • Are you too critical of any so-called sins committed by your partner?
  • Do you ever judge your partner?

Relationship Psychology of Intellectual Compatibility:

  • Do you think rationally and give logical interpretations of what you think in order to communicate with your partner?
  • Do you listen to what your partner is trying to say and look deep into it what it really means to say?
  • Do you communicate with your partner what you feel about various different issues in life around you?
  • Do you talk enough with your partner about small little things in life?
  • Do you think deep enough and are able to give words to your thinking in order to communicate with your partner?

Relationship Psychology of Emotional Compatibility:

  • Do you express your emotions as you feel them within you with your partner?
  • Do you turn harsh if you are angry with your partner?
  • Do you rebound if your partner is angry with you?
  • Do you ever feel jealous of your partner?
  • Do you trust your partner absolutely?
  • Does your partner trust you absolutely?
  • Do you ever feel contempt toward your partner?
  • Does your partner ever express contempt toward you?
  • Can you confess anything in front of your partner and still feel secure?
  • Can your partner confess anything in front of you and still feel secure?

Relationship Psychology of Physical Compatibility:

  • Does your partner’s touch turn you on?
  • Do you like your partner’s touch when you need solace?
  • Do you find your partner’s looks appealing?
  • Do you hug your partner often?
  • Do you give your partner a satisfying massage when s/he is tired?
  • Do you appreciate your partner’s figure in your mind?

Relationship Psychology of Social Compatibility:

  • Do you mingle well with your partner’s friends and colleagues?
  • Does your partner mingle well with your friends and colleagues?
  • Do you feel proud to introduce your partner in your social circles?
  • Does your partner feel proud to introduce you in her/his social circles?
  • Are you supportive of your partner’s close intimate friends?
  • Is your partner supportive of your close intimate friends?

Relationship Psychology of Professional Compatibility:

  • Do you have a high opinion about what your partner does to earn a living?
  • Does your partner have a high opinion about what you do to earn a living?
  • Do you ever discuss your professional issues with your partner?
  • Does your partner ever discuss her/his professional issues with you?

Relationship Psychology of Complementary Characteristics:

  • Do you have something in your personality that your partner feels s/he misses in hers/his and looks up toward you for complementing herself/himself?
  • Does your partner have something in her/his personality that you feel you miss in yours and look up toward her/him for complementing yourself?

Relationship Psychology of Subconscious Pull AKA Chemistry:

  • Do you share a great chemistry between the two of you?
  • Do you make your partner laugh her heart out?
  • Does your partner make you laugh your heart out?
  • Do you feel comfortable crying in your partner’s lap?
  • Does your partner feel comfortable crying in your lap?
  • Can you say anything and everything that comes to your mind in front of your partner?
  • Does your partner say anything and everything that comes to her/his mind in front of you?
  • Do you spontaneously run toward each other when you see the other coming?

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